Social and emotional skills – like recognising feelings, managing behaviour, and understanding others – are essential for all children. For deaf and hard of hearing (DHH) children, building these skills takes early access to language and lots of opportunities to connect with others in meaningful ways.
Some DHH children may feel shy or unsure in social settings, especially when they face communication barriers. Others may be outgoing at home but quiet in school or around unfamiliar people. This may relate to their hearing loss, language access, or simply their personality. It’s important not to assume these skills will develop naturally – many DHH children need to be taught social-emotional skills directly. Here are some practical ways you can help your child build confidence and social awareness:
- Practise real-life situations: Role-play everyday conversations – like saying hello, joining a game, or asking a teacher for help. As your child grows, you can explore “what-if” situations and how to respond.
- Use visual supports: Tools like social stories, cue cards or pictures help children understand what to expect in new settings like school or parties. Some children find it easier to learn these skills visually.
- Talk to teachers: Share what helps your child feel included and supported. Clear communication strategies in the classroom can make a big difference.
- Connect with the DHH community: Peer connection is powerful! Deaf mentors, playgroups or community meet-ups can create space for friendships and confidence to grow.
- Support but don’t over-comfort: Acknowledge your child’s feelings while showing confidence that they can manage them.
- Model social skills: Let your child see you greet others, start conversations, and show kindness.
- Celebrate small wins: Every wave, smile or step toward confidence is worth recognising and praising.
With love, support and patience, your child can build the skills they need to connect with others and feel confident in who they are.
Download the Real Life Tips infographic.
More information:
- Socialising with a hearing loss
- What Parents Should Know: Your Deaf Child’s Social-Emotional Development | Hands & Voices
- Shyness in children | Raising Children
