The next process in making an informed choice is to think about your values which will inform your preferences.

Values are formed by our personal experiences, abilities, beliefs, and life circumstances.

Values are also strongly shaped by our culture.

This part of the decision-making process is called deliberation; thinking, weighing up, reflecting about your options. 

Just as a jury goes and deliberates to reach a verdict in a court trial, you will need to deliberate before making a decision.

Deliberation is the time where you can sit with the professionals, your partner, family, friends to review all the information from different sources and work out your preferences.

You might do a bit of your own research, like looking on the Internet, talking to parents and adults who have made similar decisions, or return to the provider and ask more questions and so on.

Your values will shape the benefits or advantages that are important to you, and the harms or disadvantages that you would prefer to avoid.

There will also be trade-offs for your family when you make decisions about your child.

Every family has different priorities, time availability, financial resources and social support.

So, it is not surprising that what works for one family might not work for another.

It is your decision and it must work for you.